Single Mom Burnout

Single Mom Burnout

July 23, 2021

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Single moms who are trying to be everything for everyone can easily find themselves exhausted, frustrated and burnt out. So to the ladies who are doing it all, this one is in honor of you and all you do! (Not to worry not-so-single-mama’s and single ladies, I think you’ll find this actually applies to most of us). Plus, free journal prompts to help you manage single mom burnout.

Overwhelm, Exhaustion and Burnout

I was talking with a client the other day who was explaining to me her frustration about “mom time”. She is an amazing person and nurse, who works full time and has a houseful of kiddos. She was explaining to me how tired she was working full time, coming in early so she could leave early to start her second full time job, hustling kids to baseball, cooking, cleaning, laundry and the endless to-do list. With summer here, and her kids being out of school, this only amplifies the feeling of the constant need to entertain them. Enter the single parent comparison game, activity fatigue and summer burnout.

All the Things

Her ex-husband only has the kids on his days off, and has very little in the way of expenses. Translation- He has free time and extra money laying around to constantly entertain the kids. He is the “fun parent”. 

Mmhmm, you guessed it. She is finding the comparison game is hurting her mentally and financially, and she is frustrated and exhausted! She is constantly trying to find things to entertain her kids in every waking moment of their free time, and feels like a parent, while her ex-husband gets all the glory for being the fun one. Then, when he has the kids, emptiness and loneliness come creeping in, or she feels like she is missing out. 

The Constant Need to Be Entertained

First off, let’s tackle the constant need to be entertained, because, neither she nor I realized that even as adults we are doing the same thing! “Hey, tomorrow’s Saturday, what do you want to do this weekend?”, or from coworkers “what are your plans this weekend”? We seem to have a need to fill up our free time. 

She asked me, “did your parents constantly entertain you when you were growing up”? “Ummmm No! Actually, now that you mention it, they sure didn’t”. 

Now granted, I grew up in the middle of nowhere, in a tiny town, but we got up, we played outside, we read books (gasp, from the library), and we daydreamed our summers away. Now that’s not saying we didn’t spend lazy, fun-filled days at the pool, and have sleepovers with our friends, but in general, we woke up in the morning and entertained ourselves. Our mom certainly did not feel an obligation to entertain us every day with outings and entertainment. We didn’t have jam packed daily calendars of stuff to do. We enjoyed, what Matthew Kelly calls “carefree timelessness”. 

Ahhhhhh The Good ‘ol Days

I have been thinking about those good ‘ol days a lot since having that conversation with this amazing mama. I look back on those days fondly! Those were the actual, nostalgic, lazy, dog days of summer. They were a needed respite from the hustle and bustle of the busy school year that was jam packed with school, late practices, games, 4-H, church, friends, etc. (Can we just be honest for a second, that schedule is exhausting for the kids living it, let alone their mama’s who are juggling that x 2, 3, 4 or more other kids!) 

I definitely do not look back and feel like I missed out on anything. If anything, it’s the exact opposite. I look back longing for that sort of peace, freedom and rest that seems to be absent in our modern busy lives. 

I miss the days spent just hanging out in the garden with my mom, or spinning as fast as I could on my tire swing, or swimming in the ice-cold hose water in my horse tank “pool”, or spending summer evenings chasing fireflies or just staring up at the stars. Those seriously were the good ol’ days. So why do so many of us, with kids or without (because trust me, we do it too), put soooooo much pressure on ourselves to be constantly entertained? 

This isn’t an article I had really planned on writing, but I think it’s a really important topic. We are a culture that is burnt out, frazzled and exhausted. We seem to get our value from being busy and being productive. I would challenge you to spend some time thinking about this. If you journal, here are some prompts to ponder. 

Journal Prompts for Burnout

Comparison Living

I tell you this because not only does endless entertainment zap your energy, but it zaps your bank account. Rachel Cruze wrote an amazing book called “Love Your Life, Not Theirs” which tackles the concept of comparison living. (You can pick it up for $10 several times a year during their sales, or you can rent it from your library for free, which you know I’m a huge proponent of!)  

Comparison leaves you feeling like you aren’t enough, like you are lacking, like you are missing out, like your friends and neighbors are doing so much better than you are, but let me reassure you, 86% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck. Let that sink in for just a moment. The majority of people you know are actually broke, despite what their social media feed would like you to believe.

If you have tips for inexpensive or free things you can do with your kids this summer, please share them. Make fun memories and keep trucking on paying off your debt. Don’t lose sight of your financial endgame. Make a budget and stick to it. Live within your means. I want you to live an abundant life with a peaceful spirit, and to be financially successful and wealthy!

And a great big hug to all of you moms out there who are doing it all! Show yourself some Grace and Love ladies! You’re Amazing humans doing hard things!


Jenna Dowell | Financial Coach | Floral Designer
Jenna Dowell is a Financial Coach, Nurse Exec, Dog Mama, Adventurer and fellow dreamer.

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I'm Jenna

Executive, entrepreneur, floral designer, RN, Master Financial Coach, and the owner of Elevations. Good coffee and adventures in wild places with my hubby and two dogs fuel my soul.


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